By Kolawole Samuel Olure (KSO)
Mental health stigma is deeply rooted in the communities many of us come from, where the belief is that struggles should be hidden, almost like a disease that must never be discussed.
In my own experience as a man, I was often told to “man up” or “be a man”, even when I was struggling inwardly. These societal pressures make mental health a taboo, something we’re afraid to talk about in every aspect of life.
But this stigma needs to change. Mental health is just as important as physical health and we need to break the silence.
I’ve made it a point to speak openly about it, organizing mental health talks with experts for friends, family and myself. I also make use of the university’s resources—experts who are there to help and guide us. When I need advice or support, I reach out because seeking help is a strength, not a weakness.
I also share my experiences on social media, creating short video clips to normalize these conversations. By speaking out, I hope to inspire others to do the same and help break down the walls of silence and shame. It’s time we end the taboo and start supporting each other in every aspect of mental health.
To the men in our community, my advice is simple: Don’t let societal expectations stop you from speaking up. It’s okay to not be okay. Talking about mental health is a powerful way to break the stigma and there’s no shame in seeking help. Use the resources around you, whether through experts at university or trusted mentors and don’t carry the burden alone.