By Syed Ayaan Reza
As a university student, a friend, a son and someone who juggles multiple roles at UWE Bristol, I’ve learned that life can get overwhelming, even for someone who prides himself on having it all together. I’ve been fortunate to have an active, fulfilling life balancing my studies in Biomedical Science, working as a student ambassador, race equity officer, and communication officer, while pursuing passions like travel and karaoke nights with friends. But I’ve also realized that being “busy” is not the same as being “okay.”
The Silent Struggle
Men’s mental health often doesn’t get the attention it deserves. Many of us have grown up believing in the stereotype that men must be stoic, strong, and invulnerable. As a result, seeking help or even admitting we’re struggling can feel like we’re breaking an unwritten code. This stigma is something I’ve noticed both in myself and in the men around me.
There’s an underlying fear of being judged whether it’s about reaching out for professional support or even opening up to friends. But here’s the truth: acknowledging vulnerability is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength.
Building Bridges
One of the things I’ve learned is the importance of checking in with the people around you. While I love exploring new countries and sharing incredible moments over karaoke, it’s the quieter, personal moments that truly define relationships. A simple “How are you really feeling?” to a friend can open doors to meaningful conversations.
During my summer internship in Malaysia, I worked closely with peers from different cultural and social backgrounds. Those experiences taught me that while we all face unique challenges, mental health struggles are universal. Sharing stories over meals or late-night chats created a space where vulnerability felt safe.
Similarly, as part of my roles at UWE, I’ve had the privilege of connecting with people from diverse communities. Whether it’s through my ambassador work, student welfare activities, or even casual conversations, I’ve seen the incredible power of simply listening without judgment.
Looking After Myself
I’ve also learned the importance of prioritizing my own mental health. While I stay busy with academics and responsibilities, I make sure to carve out time for things that genuinely make me happy. Traveling feeds my soul there’s something incredibly liberating about immersing myself in new cultures, meeting new people, and gaining fresh perspectives.
And then there’s karaoke. Some might see it as just a fun activity, but for me, it’s therapeutic. Standing in front of friends, belting out tunes and laughing over botched lyrics reminds me not to take life too seriously. It’s a moment to let go and just be myself.
Of course, there are tougher days too. On those days, I remind myself that it’s okay to slow down. Whether it’s taking a walk, journaling my thoughts or even seeking guidance, I’ve learned to treat my mental health with the same care and attention I give to my physical health.
My Advice to You
To the men in our community, here’s what I want you to know:
- You’re not alone – whether it’s stress, anxiety or just the weight of expectations, know that others have been there too. Sharing your feelings doesn’t make you weak; it makes you human.
- Check in with your circle – be the friend who asks how someone’s really doing. Often, it’s these small conversations that make the biggest difference.
- Find what heals you – whether it’s a hobby, a passion or even professional support, discover what keeps you grounded. For me, it’s travel and karaoke. For you, it might be something entirely different—and that’s okay.
- Seek support when needed – UWE Bristol offers a range of resources for mental health support. Don’t hesitate to use them. Talking to a counsellor or joining a support group can be life-changing.
Final Thoughts
Men’s mental health is not just a personal issue; it’s a community one. Breaking the stigma starts with each of us. By sharing our experiences, checking in with one another and normalizing conversations about mental health – we can create a world where seeking help is seen as a sign of courage, not weakness.
If you’re reading this, consider this your sign to reach out to a friend, take a break or simply reflect on how you’re really feeling. Because your mental health matters and so do you.
Note to readers: If you’re struggling or know someone who might be, don’t hesitate to reach out. UWE Bristol offers confidential support and there are always people ready to listen. Support options >
Let’s build a community where vulnerability is celebrated, not feared. Together, we can make a difference.