Author: Bek Rengel
Each year on November 20th, we gather to remember and honour the trans lives lost to anti-transgender violence, hate and systemic neglect. But Trans Day of Remembrance (TDOR) is more than a memorial—it’s a call to action.
What does TDOR mean to me?
I attended my first TDOR vigil in 2018, and it’s stuck with me ever since. I remember the ceremony vividly: people stood up reading out the names of those who had lost their lives to anti-trans violence. Then someone read a name that happened to be the same as one of my close trans friends. It was like a gut punch. In that moment, I thought about how easily I could be sitting at a future ceremony hearing his name read out.
At the end of the day, the anti-trans “culture wars” cost lives, they aren’t just abstract arguments. For me, TDOR isn’t just about honouring the trans lives lost; it’s a reminder of why we need to keep working to protect and support trans people.
What can you do?
Practicing allyship in small ways can make a world of difference in the daily lives of trans people. Here are some simple but meaningful ways to show support in the workplace:
- Include your pronouns in your email signature or when introducing yourself if you feel comfortable to do so. This can signal to trans and gender-diverse people that you’re a safe person to be around.
- Educate yourself about the lives and experiences of trans people. Seek out resources and listen to the voices of trans people to understand the realities of their day-to-day lives.
- Challenge your own biases. Be honest about how much of what you think you know about trans people comes from media coverage or political debates. Go beyond the headlines to read perspectives from trans people themselves. TransActual is a good place to start.
- Stand up against transphobia in classrooms or in the office. If you hear someone making derogatory remarks, don’t let it slide. Challenge it calmly and appropriately, or report it if it feels unsafe to confront directly.
- Support trans-specific charities if you’re able. Organizations like Trans Pride Bristol, Mindline Trans+, Freedom, Dandelion and Bristol Crossroads provide support, resources, and community for trans people and are always in need of donations.
TDOR reminds us that these aren’t just statistics—these are people, with futures that were taken from them in a society that too often looks the other way. It’s a day to remember them, to say their names, and to recommit to making the world a place where trans people can thrive.


